Our relationships are interconnected. To understand the links, you need to identify the traumas that could be determining how you relate with yourself and others.
You have probably heard that your adult relationships are shaped by your childhood experiences, particularly by how you related to your parents, siblings, or guardians. It is therefore imperative to identify common aspects of all relationships.
To heal, you need to explore your body, mind, and spirit triad for wounds, which we refer to as transrelational healing. This concept also entails establishing patterns that connect your relationships. Hence, transrelationship healing addresses factors determining why you find yourself in relationships that do not propagate your best self-interest.
Essentials of exploring the body, mind, and spirit triad
Mind-Identify beliefs, emotions, and thoughts that past experiences have inculcated.
Body-What are your addictions and physical reactions following traumatic experiences?
Spirit- what is the impact of your experiences on your trust in self and others?
Children’s minds are malleable. They can be conditioned to have a specific identity and self-concept and make decisions in a certain way. In adulthood, the childhood experiences form the subconscious mind, which influences beliefs, relationships, and attachments. If the incidents were not ideal, people could find themselves in unhealthy relationships. Therefore, it is imperative to introspect, soul search, and recall past relationships to address past trauma to have healthy relationships from now on.
5-point approach to transrelationship healing
What patterns stand out in your life and relationships?
How were you conditioned as a child, and how does this influence your adult relationships?
What are your past wounds?
How can you break the toxic conditioning?
Acquiring healthy behaviour.
What patterns can you identify in your relationships?
How did you recognize the pattern?
How has the pattern influenced your relationships?
Do you think the pattern has been detrimental to the well-being of your relationships?
What is the effect of the pattern on your mind?
What is the effect of the pattern on your spirit?
What is the effect of the pattern on your body?
How does the pattern influence your adult relationships?
Exploring wounds to facilitate healing
How was the most crucial relationship in your life wrecked?
What was the significance of this relationship to your life?
Why did you avoid exploring the past traumas?
What are you doing differently as you try to embrace your reality?
Do you think the people who caused the trauma are human and predisposed to make mistakes?
Are you willing to take responsibility for your healing?
How would healing change your relationships?
What is the significance of forgiving yourself and others?
You need to heal and move on; how can you get closure?
The AURA Principle
Accept your liberty to make choices.
Understand that your experiences should not and do not define you.
Realize that being a victim is counterproductive.
Acknowledge that the status quo is not ideal for you.
Shadow work and focusing on the present and future can empower you to adopt the AURA principle in your quest for transrelationship healing.
How to get started in Transrelational Healing
Establish and enforce boundaries.
Exercise holistic self-care.
Adopt a new positive self-concept.
Let go of beliefs, thoughts, opinions, and feelings that are no longer consistent with your quest for betterment.
Observe from a neutral point of view and react objectively instead of subjectively.